Divorce Coaching
For the 2am thoughts you can't say out loud yet — how do I tell the kids? can I actually afford to stay in the house? am I failing at everything right now?
You Don’t Have to Have it Figured Out Yet…
Maybe you already know the marriage is over. Maybe you're not sure yet, and that uncertainty is its own kind of exhausting. Either way, you're probably still going to work, still getting the kids to school, still holding everything together on the outside — while inside, your head won't stop.
Family mediation handles the practical decisions. This is different. This is somewhere to think — properly, without an agenda, without having to manage anyone else's feelings about it — so the decisions you do make come from a clearer place, not from panic or exhaustion.
This may be for you if you are thinking
"I don't know how to tell the children, or when."
"I don't know if I can afford to keep the house, and I'm scared to find out."
“ We can't have a conversation without it turning into a fight."
“ I said I wanted this, so why do I feel like this?
"I've been through the legal process already, but I still don't feel okay.
"I can't make a decision to save my life right now, and I don't know if that's just the stress or something more."
"I just need to talk to someone who isn't my mum, my best friend, or my solicitor."
How it Works…
Sessions are one-to-one online or in person in Whitstable, and built around what you actually need that week. This is not a fixed course you have to complete.
A first call is free and no-pressure — just a chance to talk through what's going on and decide together whether this is the right support for you right now.
From there, most people book in blocks of a few sessions at a time, focused on a specific decision or period (telling the children, preparing for a solicitor's meeting, the first few months alone) rather than committing to something open-ended.
Big decisions made from an exhausted, stressed state rarely hold up, so sessions help to build your capacity to think clearly under stress. Part of the work is finding steadier ground first, so the decisions actually stick.
Tools that help between sessions…
When you're deep in stress and overwhelm, the emotional part of your brain takes over, and clear, logical thinking gets harder to reach. This can make it easy to forget what made sense in a session, or feel like everything is worse than it actually is.
A coaching journal. Somewhere to capture the important realisations from each session, so they don't get lost the next time overwhelm takes over — and somewhere to note the small wins too.
A fear list. Writing down, honestly, what you're actually afraid of. Fears often feel bigger in your head than on paper — bringing them into the open can take away a surprising amount of their power.
Present-moment practices. Many fears are rooted in past experience rather than what's happening right now. Simple, grounding tools can help bring you back to the present.
Why Work With Me…
This isn't talk-based coaching applied to divorce. Most divorce coaching is entirely conversation — processing the situation, making a plan, talking it through. That helps, but it misses something:
separation is an event that has a major impact on the body and mind as well as the emotions
Disrupted sleep, a shortened temper, brain fog, a body stuck in high alert — you can know exactly what you should do and still be too dysregulated to actually do it.
Alongside coaching, I bring a Level 6 yoga therapy qualification with a specialism in child and adolescent mental health — which means the sessions don't just help you think it through, they help your nervous system settle enough that you can actually think clearly, not just talk about thinking clearly.
I also bring specific experience supporting neurodivergent adults through separation. Decision-making, overwhelm and anxiety can work differently for a neurodivergent brain, especially under this kind of prolonged stress — struggling to decide isn't a failure of willpower, and generic "just make a pros and cons list" advice often doesn't work.
Combined with direct family mediation experience and an understanding of child and adolescent mental health, this means when you're worrying about your kids as well as yourself, you're talking to someone who genuinely understands both.
I'm not a solicitor and this isn't legal advice — but I understand the legal process well enough to help you prepare for it, ask the right questions, and assist you alongside your solicitor or legal team.
This work is different — a holistic, trauma-informed approach that treats nervous system literacy, body awareness and child-inclusive practice as central, not optional extras. I bring a unique approach that goes beyond simply looking at the legal and financial side, or offering general life coaching that isn't built for the specific emotional complexity of separation.
FAQ’s
Is this instead of a solicitor?
No. This supports the thinking and emotional side of separation — it isn't legal advice, and I'll always encourage proper legal advice alongside this work.
How many sessions will I need?
It depends on what you're facing. Some people want three or four sessions around a specific decision; others want ongoing support through the whole process.
Is this the same as family mediation?
No. Mediation involves both people, working toward practical agreements. This is one-to-one, just for you.
What if I'm not sure I even want a divorce?
That's a completely valid reason to book a first call. A lot of people come here still deciding, not already decided.
This isn’t the end of the story…
Right now it might feel like separation is the only thing that exists. It won't stay like that. Most people who come through this process end up somewhere they couldn't have pictured from where you're sitting now — not just "surviving it," but genuinely building a life they want.
Ready to Talk?
A first conversation costs nothing, and there's no pressure to commit to anything.