Family Mediation FAQ’s
If you're considering family mediation, it's completely normal to have questions about what happens, what it costs and whether it will actually work for your situation.
Here are answers to some of the questions I'm most often asked about mediation following separation or divorce.
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What is family mediation?
Family mediation gives separating or separated couples a structured way to discuss the decisions that need to be made with the support of an impartial family mediator.
This might include arrangements for children, finances, property or communication.
The mediator doesn't make decisions for you or decide who is right. Their role is to help you identify the issues, communicate constructively and explore possible solutions.
Do I have to attend mediation?
No. Attending a MIAM and agreeing to mediation are two different things.
Before making certain applications to the Family Court in England and Wales, you will usually need to attend a MIAM unless an exemption applies. But attending a MIAM does not mean you are required to proceed with mediation afterwards.
Do we have to sit in the same room?
Not necessarily.
Mediation can take place in different ways depending on the circumstances and what is considered safe and appropriate.
We'll discuss this during your individual MIAM before any joint mediation begins.
What is a MIAM?
MIAM stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting.
It's a private meeting between you and a family mediator, usually before any joint mediation takes place.
It gives you an opportunity to explain what's happening, understand how mediation works and consider whether mediation — or another form of non-court dispute resolution — may be appropriate.
What happens if my ex refuses mediation?
You can still attend your own MIAM even if your former partner doesn't want to participate.
If mediation is considered appropriate, the mediator can discuss the next steps with you. If your former partner ultimately chooses not to participate, that doesn't prevent you from exploring other options or, where appropriate, making an application to court.
Can family mediation help with children?
Yes. Mediation can help parents discuss arrangements such as:
where children live;
time spent with each parent;
holidays and special occasions;
communication between parents;
practical parenting arrangements;
changes as children grow.
The focus is on helping you find arrangements that work for your children and your family.